I have been absent the past week or so and for that I apologize. Things have been extremely busy; I've picked up a second job, I just enrolled in my spring semester, and I've kicked up my work outs several notches. I have also just taken the time out to vote in the Republican Primary (please tell me you voted!)!
This is just a small check-in. I shall write a longer entry tomorrow but I wanted to just touch base and remind anyone who might be reading this that I am still here. I haven't disappeared. I'm just taking the necessary steps in my life to make me a fabulous success (which means less time in front of my computer).
Wednesday, January 11, 2012
Friday, December 30, 2011
No Fear. No Regret. No Holding Back.
Forgive me for this entry will bypass several of the first few pages in Ms. Sherman's book. I will return to review the beginning in a subsequent entry.
The fabulous, or creme de la creme, need not fear those around them. Becoming the best that you can be relies heavily on your level of self-confidence. Only those who are marvelously intrepid may truly rise to the top as they are not afraid of a little competition (in fact they often aid the "competition" in their journeys to success). Ms. Sherman makes this notion abundantly clear. Shall we run the race of life with no adversaries in sight? To eliminate all forms of competition is to accept complacency (and as I stated before to be fabulous is to be anything but stagnant).
A few weeks ago I was on the hunt for a new job with a friend of mine. We went to the same establishments, applied for the same openings, and even were given interviews for the same positions. There was one job I was certain was mine. I had provided a well thought out resume, thanked interviewers for their time, and followed up with genuine interest. After contemplating all the responsibilities and details of the position I decided to decline the offer. My friend, as far as I know, has yet to hear from them. I feel as if I could have significantly changed the outcome of her situation. Hence my decision to focus on competition and the fear of failure for this entry.
Yesterday morning I decided to help my friend with her resume. I woke up early, grabbed my laptop, and headed over to her house. I had told her several days before this was my intention so there were no surprises when I showed up to her door ready to work. She, however, was not only distracted by her children (understandably so) but seemed incredibly timid when I helped her put into words all the great things she has done. This woman has a lot of potential but unless she releases her inhibitions she will forever be trapped in her current state of unhappiness.
According to Ms. Sherman you have to truly want to be fabulous in order to become fabulous. The fear of failure is often enough to make one hold back. If you do not give your all then if failure comes it is easier to accept. You might think to yourself "I never really wanted that job anyway," or "I didn't do my best because I knew it wouldn't be worth it." STOP. Stop these thoughts right now and the rest of the negative internal dialogue you might have along with them. You can do it - it's easier than you think.
I want you to think of three positives about yourself. I am reminded of the movie The Help in which there is a certain mantra repeated to a little girl: "I is kind, I is smart, I is special." I am sure you can think of at least three things but if you need help ask a close friend. Now of course I would like you to choose a phrase that is grammatically correct (but you get the idea). The next time negative self-talk wanders through your mind I want you to immediately say "STOP," and then repeat those three positives about yourself. You may do it out loud, you may do it internally, but it is important that you do.
When the fear of failure creeps into your head again remind yourself of how great you truly are. When you feel threatened by the success of your colleagues don't worry about their actions - focus on your own. Remind yourself that they are the rabbits we must use to pace ourselves and let them help you bring out the best that you truly can be.
The fabulous, or creme de la creme, need not fear those around them. Becoming the best that you can be relies heavily on your level of self-confidence. Only those who are marvelously intrepid may truly rise to the top as they are not afraid of a little competition (in fact they often aid the "competition" in their journeys to success). Ms. Sherman makes this notion abundantly clear. Shall we run the race of life with no adversaries in sight? To eliminate all forms of competition is to accept complacency (and as I stated before to be fabulous is to be anything but stagnant).
A few weeks ago I was on the hunt for a new job with a friend of mine. We went to the same establishments, applied for the same openings, and even were given interviews for the same positions. There was one job I was certain was mine. I had provided a well thought out resume, thanked interviewers for their time, and followed up with genuine interest. After contemplating all the responsibilities and details of the position I decided to decline the offer. My friend, as far as I know, has yet to hear from them. I feel as if I could have significantly changed the outcome of her situation. Hence my decision to focus on competition and the fear of failure for this entry.
Yesterday morning I decided to help my friend with her resume. I woke up early, grabbed my laptop, and headed over to her house. I had told her several days before this was my intention so there were no surprises when I showed up to her door ready to work. She, however, was not only distracted by her children (understandably so) but seemed incredibly timid when I helped her put into words all the great things she has done. This woman has a lot of potential but unless she releases her inhibitions she will forever be trapped in her current state of unhappiness.
According to Ms. Sherman you have to truly want to be fabulous in order to become fabulous. The fear of failure is often enough to make one hold back. If you do not give your all then if failure comes it is easier to accept. You might think to yourself "I never really wanted that job anyway," or "I didn't do my best because I knew it wouldn't be worth it." STOP. Stop these thoughts right now and the rest of the negative internal dialogue you might have along with them. You can do it - it's easier than you think.
I want you to think of three positives about yourself. I am reminded of the movie The Help in which there is a certain mantra repeated to a little girl: "I is kind, I is smart, I is special." I am sure you can think of at least three things but if you need help ask a close friend. Now of course I would like you to choose a phrase that is grammatically correct (but you get the idea). The next time negative self-talk wanders through your mind I want you to immediately say "STOP," and then repeat those three positives about yourself. You may do it out loud, you may do it internally, but it is important that you do.
When the fear of failure creeps into your head again remind yourself of how great you truly are. When you feel threatened by the success of your colleagues don't worry about their actions - focus on your own. Remind yourself that they are the rabbits we must use to pace ourselves and let them help you bring out the best that you truly can be.
Wednesday, December 28, 2011
Baby We Weren't Born This Way
If you wish to obtain more knowledge you should study more.
One must be able to complete a mile before one can run a marathon.
Why should becoming fabulous be any different? That certain "Savior 'flair'" that seems to be inherent to those oozing with joie de vivre and their bottomless stores of energy is (not-so-easily) obtainable. One thing I find extremely comforting is Ms. Sherman's clearly states in the preface that 'no one is born fabulous.' In this section not only does she go over the very definition of fabulous but she also includes how various people (including herself) may acquire such a life status. And why is it we should take her advice? Well if you have purchased her book it should be immediately clear just by how she presents herself. Moreover, if you are one of those readers who actually reads the preface and acknowledgments (I must confess I often do not) she gives not only her credentials but credit to many others who have had a profound impact on her throughout the years.
So why fabulous?? Honestly? For me? It was simple: my best friend's mother handed me the book. Over Thanksgiving I went to visit a very dear friend of mine who had returned for a visit home from his ever flourishing career in L.A. I must admit that I have been envious of his current position. He had graduated early and within almost a years time had the job of his dreams. We attended the same school, both worked very hard, and I felt as if I had been continuously met with failure since my graduation. Something as definitely amiss. No matter how hard I tried things just didn't seem to work out the way I had hoped.
Around March of 2011 I finally said enough. I was not going to wallow in self pity and I knew that I had to do something to turn my life around. Even just adopting that can-do attitude helped significantly. Things changed for the better almost immediately: I bought a car, I did well in my graduate classes, I found a new job, and I learned that I can most definitely depend on me. But somethings still weren't quite right. They still aren't quite right. So what is it that I am still missing?
While watching my friend work ferverously his mother (who is also a very accomplished woman and a dear friend of mine) handed me this book. Normally, if I were to receive a book of this sort, I would have politely accepted the gift and thanked the person for thinking of me. This was most certainly was not the type of book that I would have picked for myself and I must admit the title had made me giggle. But my friend's mother is Ms. Sherman's very definition of fabulous and an incredibly acomplished woman so it would have been silly of me to ignore her advice.
I have often started things and become discouraged consequently leaving them unfinished. This blog is not only my invitation to you to make a change in your lives but a way for me to ensure I see this through to completion. The only problem? Becoming fabulous means never being complacent. Fabulous is never stagnant. It will be an everlasting battle but the greatest things in life are those worth fighting for and I wish to forever be known as fabulously great.
One must be able to complete a mile before one can run a marathon.
Why should becoming fabulous be any different? That certain "Savior 'flair'" that seems to be inherent to those oozing with joie de vivre and their bottomless stores of energy is (not-so-easily) obtainable. One thing I find extremely comforting is Ms. Sherman's clearly states in the preface that 'no one is born fabulous.' In this section not only does she go over the very definition of fabulous but she also includes how various people (including herself) may acquire such a life status. And why is it we should take her advice? Well if you have purchased her book it should be immediately clear just by how she presents herself. Moreover, if you are one of those readers who actually reads the preface and acknowledgments (I must confess I often do not) she gives not only her credentials but credit to many others who have had a profound impact on her throughout the years.
So why fabulous?? Honestly? For me? It was simple: my best friend's mother handed me the book. Over Thanksgiving I went to visit a very dear friend of mine who had returned for a visit home from his ever flourishing career in L.A. I must admit that I have been envious of his current position. He had graduated early and within almost a years time had the job of his dreams. We attended the same school, both worked very hard, and I felt as if I had been continuously met with failure since my graduation. Something as definitely amiss. No matter how hard I tried things just didn't seem to work out the way I had hoped.
Around March of 2011 I finally said enough. I was not going to wallow in self pity and I knew that I had to do something to turn my life around. Even just adopting that can-do attitude helped significantly. Things changed for the better almost immediately: I bought a car, I did well in my graduate classes, I found a new job, and I learned that I can most definitely depend on me. But somethings still weren't quite right. They still aren't quite right. So what is it that I am still missing?
While watching my friend work ferverously his mother (who is also a very accomplished woman and a dear friend of mine) handed me this book. Normally, if I were to receive a book of this sort, I would have politely accepted the gift and thanked the person for thinking of me. This was most certainly was not the type of book that I would have picked for myself and I must admit the title had made me giggle. But my friend's mother is Ms. Sherman's very definition of fabulous and an incredibly acomplished woman so it would have been silly of me to ignore her advice.
I have often started things and become discouraged consequently leaving them unfinished. This blog is not only my invitation to you to make a change in your lives but a way for me to ensure I see this through to completion. The only problem? Becoming fabulous means never being complacent. Fabulous is never stagnant. It will be an everlasting battle but the greatest things in life are those worth fighting for and I wish to forever be known as fabulously great.
No more Whatevers.
Welcome to my journey to fabulousness.
Have you ever reached a point and wondered where exactly it was that you lost your spark? Perhaps you feelstuck in one of those endless dreams in which you can never quite reach the horizon and all the doors you try lead to nowhere. I, my friends, have recently reached such a point and finally told myself enough.
This blog is for anyone, and everyone, looking to ignite passion in their lives. For those of you who would like to follow me, for those who are through with the humdrum, and for those who wish to succeed please join me by following the steps provided for us by Ms. Ellen Lubin-Sherman. I plan to catalogue each day of my fabulous transformation and every step of my metamorphosis aided by her work The Essentials of Fabulous.
Disclaimer: I can only strongly encourage you to purchase this book. However, if you are anything like me then you will indeed be skeptical that this is a marketing ploy (as well you should be given we have only just met). Rest assured that this is not the case and my affiliation with Ms. Sherman is minimal to say the least. At any rate, follow along and heed her advice as it comes through me and make the decision to purchase her book on your own. What have you got to lose?
Have you ever reached a point and wondered where exactly it was that you lost your spark? Perhaps you feelstuck in one of those endless dreams in which you can never quite reach the horizon and all the doors you try lead to nowhere. I, my friends, have recently reached such a point and finally told myself enough.
This blog is for anyone, and everyone, looking to ignite passion in their lives. For those of you who would like to follow me, for those who are through with the humdrum, and for those who wish to succeed please join me by following the steps provided for us by Ms. Ellen Lubin-Sherman. I plan to catalogue each day of my fabulous transformation and every step of my metamorphosis aided by her work The Essentials of Fabulous.
Disclaimer: I can only strongly encourage you to purchase this book. However, if you are anything like me then you will indeed be skeptical that this is a marketing ploy (as well you should be given we have only just met). Rest assured that this is not the case and my affiliation with Ms. Sherman is minimal to say the least. At any rate, follow along and heed her advice as it comes through me and make the decision to purchase her book on your own. What have you got to lose?
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